Because death is an inevitable, natural fact of life, grief is only just as natural. Grief is defined as a deep sorrow, especially one that is caused by someones death. Some handle the death of a loved one better than others. Others, well, it tears them up inside and continues to negatively affect them for the rest of their life.
Nonetheless, there is generally a process that a person tends to experience beginning after the passing of a loved one, and it starts with the initial shock of losing a dearly loved person and ends with finally accepting their passing. One model that explains the process of grieving is Elizabeth Kubler-Ross model The Five Stages of Grief in which there is 1) Denial, 2) Anger, 3) Bargaining, 4) Depression and 5) Acceptance.
Denial happens to people when they first lose a person to death and cant believe it has happened. They deny it. It is essentially a stage of shock, numbness, and disbelief. They are not denying the death has occurred; they are more so experiencing this mentality: I cant believe this person, whom I love so much and came to depend on, will never be around to embrace again.
This thought process serves to protect the grieving because to understand this reality all at once would be too intense and overwhelming for the living loved ones. Eventually one asks, How did this happen?and Why? But this is natural; its a sign that they are moving out of the denial phase and into the process of healing.
The second stage is anger at oneself, at God, at the loved one, at the world. It is often kept bottled up inside until it turns into guilt guilt that more could have been done to prevent this loved ones death. But this is a completely natural response to loss. Recognizing this anger phase of the process of grieving and being able to control these strong emotions is a crucial step to moving on toward acceptance.
Bargaining is the third stage. This occurs when the grieving person wants life to be like it used to be when the deceased was still alive and well. They essentially fixate on going back in time in order to prevent the death from happening in the first place. It is the If onlymentality. This keeps the person focused on the past and they avoid dealing with the emotions of the present, the reality of the deceased.
Depression is the fourth stage of grieving, according to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross model of The Five Stages of Grief.It is when the person who has lost a loved one and who is grieving enters a darker level one with intense feelings of emptiness and sadness. When daily habits become a burden, and joy is hard to find in any event or experience.
It is not a mental illness at this point, per se, but a natural response to loss. In this stage, the griever allows himself or herself to begin accepting the loss. At this point, they allow themselves to feel the pain, loss, grief and sadness that comes with the death of a loved one. This is crucial to healing experiencing these emotions for this reason.
The fifth and final stage of the grieving process is acceptance. It is not the cure to grief, as the loss of a dearly loved one can impact a person for the rest of their lives. Acceptance only means the person who has lost a loved one is ready to try and move on to accommodate themselves in this world without the loved one.
This is a process that everyone experience in one shape or form. It is one that can actually bring a person closer to the departed, the loved one, with a clear sense of the previous life and clear understanding how they want life to be now.